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>Seeking Advice

>All you moms out there. I need some advice on a number of things I need to get better at:

1) How can you successfully go grocery shopping with a three-year-old (I’ve been avoiding it, but want to start doing it so he does a good job and has fun too)?

2) Can you only paint your nails during naptime or when your child is in bed?

3) How can you distract your child (or entertain) in the kitchen when you do some extensive cooking?
 (I don’t want to promote too much TV watching.)

4) Can you get bills paid and do paperwork when your child is awake? What is a good activity for them to do while you do this?

In other words, I am in a transition, where I don’t want to try to shove so much into time when he’s sleeping or I need to go off on my own to do it. I want to involve him and/or plan activities for him to have fun doing while I’m doing my tasks too. I’m getting too tired trying to do it all in limited time and want to branch out on my thinking.

Thank you for any suggestions you have!



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>The New Normal

>Just when I think I am in a routine at home that works and I feel comfortable, truly happy, and feel like things are flowing along smoothly (for the most part), my boat starts to get a little shaky, something different gets in my path, and BOOM, I’m off course again.

I feel it. I start thinking, “Boy, this week has been busy, and so out of the norm. I’m sure next week will feel differently.” But, it doesn’t. I find I’m still a little shaky, and things aren’t quite, well, “right”.

An example of this was when my son started having sleep issues and monsters. We bought him a twin bed and he’d be up a million times during the night, and sometimes up for good at 3:45 AM. I ended up having to pack a “morning bag” of all my essentials that I could just grab and use to get ready in a different bathroom, since he was up. That became part of my “new normal” then, toting that bag out every morning and back again in the evening. We also starting putting him to bed later, and leaving his door open, which did not allow us to watch TV in the living room. I hated that! I wanted that “normal” back, my time to veg on the sofa. Instead, I was having to sit on our bed in the back to watch TV, and I didn’t like that.

Over the last few days, we’ve been able to create a “new normal”, of waiting until he’s asleep around 8 pm, then closing his door, and we can watch TV once again in the living room. AHHH….it feels so nice, to have our dogs curled up next to us, feet up, in our space.

I’m realizing too, that something else has felt off lately. I’ve been needing to pick up my son later, so many nights a week, due to other obligations. It used to be I could get him by 4:30. Now, some days it is 4:45 or even 5:10. I hate it, because I know he’s waiting, peeking his little (and cute) face into the window peering into the daycare lobby. I keep thinking my schedule will change, but maybe, just maybe, it too, is the “new normal”. Maybe that’s just the way things are going to be.

Being a parent is such a growing experience for me, for me to get out of my little shell I’ve been living in and realize how little control I have over every little thing.

I think I’ve coined a new phrase for myself, “The New Normal”, that normal doesn’t always stay the same, but it is normal for that time period, only, until something new steps in.

How have you seen stages like that in your life, and how do you go through them with a positive attitude?

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>Finding Time

>Isn’t it always tough to find the time to do all that we need/want to do?

These last two weeks have been particularly tough, with getting back to work full-time and managing the monster/sleeping issues in our house. What used include some relaxation and chore routine during the weekdays nights suddenly became just simply trying to get my son to go and stay asleep. Due to that, I have felt completely thrown off course. I know it has happened to everyone.

Last night, he was asleep by 7:15, with some encouraging words from Dad.

Oh, nice! Sure he was up at 4:45, and didn’t earn his “wait until Mommy gets you up” award, but he is happy and a spaz today.

I love routine because I know how much time I have to do a particular thing, and can generalize whether I’ll be on time, can get a certain thing done, etc. Mornings like today throw me off a bit and instead of being early because my son wakes up at 4:45 instead of me getting him up at 5:20 or so, I have to figure out how to have him entertained so I can sneak back in the bedroom to get my makeup and things to somewhat get ready before breakfast so it fits in the rest of the family routine, without him coming to the back to tell Daddy hello before Daddy wakes at 5:30, or we will definitely have a house full of monsters then!

I think what I’m learning most about parenting is to expect the unexpected, at all times, and just try to be flexible, knowing that around the corner, things will change again anyway. Sure, I feel/understand that today, but when the next change happens, I know I’ll forget, won’t I?

Until then, I’ll try to find the time to squeeze in all the little things that didn’t get done, or what the heck, write off a few things that aren’t necessary…

How do you find time to get everything done when life throws you off course?

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>Monster Update Monday

>Well, this has been one of the biggest challenges I’ve faced as a mom, and some of you may laugh, and think I have no clue…or that there is so much more to come.

I’ve spent so much quality time next to my son the last few nights that it has taken me back to when I used to call out for my mom in the middle of the night after a bad dream and she’d come and lay with me until I fell asleep. That meant so much to me that right now, I want to be able to do that for my little guy too, to help scare away his monsters.

We helped by supplying him with a flashlight.

And this weekend, we broke down and bought a single mattress for the floor, to see if that will help him, and help me, be able to lay next to and ease him into sleep. He took to the bed right away, which was great.

Now I just have to help get him from waking up 4 or more times every night and come looking for me.

My friends and family have been such great support with ideas left and right, and the continual message that this too, will pass. My husband asks how many days? 🙂

What has been one of your biggest struggles as a parent?


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>Entertaining a Toddler vs. Getting Things Done

>Experienced moms out there:

How do you manage getting your regular chores done and spending quality time with your children?

This is probably one of my greatest challenges. I’m a mom who likes to be engaged with her child, and if I’m not, then I went my child to be doing something educational like: watching an educational show for kids (keeping it to a minimum), doing crafts, building with toys, interacting with me doing reading, or educational things on the computer, etc. My husband reminds me that my child can play on his own, which he is getting better at (he’s 2 1/2), but I don’t feel like I’m really successful at finding that balance. I just feel like I look like this (but as a brunette) at the end of a weekend day (sometimes even by 9 AM!)

There are bills to pay, things to clean, meals to cook (that’s usually when he gets to watch a show, so I know he’s safe and occupied), and so on. I’d also love to find downtime for myself during the day that doesn’t involve watching a child’s show or have to happen during naptime. Is that realistic to ask for? I find I hold off on a lot of things on my to-do list until naptime on a weekend, and then that time is so limited.

I’d love to hear your suggestions. 🙂

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>Hardworking Mommy Blog Award

>I have received an award from my blogging friend Gianna. Thanks!

My role is now to pass this on to 7 hard working mommy bloggers and grant them the award.

I think these are some of the top hard working mommies I know (and there are plenty others of you out there!)

Chelsea @ vicariouschelsea
Becca @ Our Crazy Boys
Julie @From Inmates to Playdates
Eileen @ The Short Life
Lainie @ her blog
Jerris @ The Brown Beauties
Kendra @ Family Fun

Here are the rules of acceptance:

If you are awarded the “Hard-working Mommy Blogger Award” you need to pass on the love to 7 other Hard Working Mommy Bloggers.
Accept the award (by leaving a comment on the original award post)
Post about the award on your blog (include the image of the award) together with the name of the person who has granted the award, and her blog link.
List 7 other Mommy Bloggers that you want to pass the award along to (no backsies). Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.


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>How to Carry a Child

>There are many ways to carry a child:

*in one’s uterus
*in a front carrier
*in a back carrier
*on one hip
*cradled like a baby
*over one’s shoulder
*piggy back style
*any which way you can when the child is having a meltdown

I’d never once thought of this way until I saw it in the paper this weekend, from Wichita, KS.
Can you believe it? That is one creative man, or can you think of a different adjective?
I think he’s been around too many mama cats carrying their kittens…


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